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A Test Paper For You, God

Given ample examinations in my life till date…Been through several tests all through school, college and life…Asked several people multiple questions, and answered more than my fair share of queries…How about a question paper for you, God…?How about you giving us some much needed responses to doubts that seem frustrating and confusing?It’s only reasonable, considering it is we humans who have to live our life amidst so many, never-ending challenges and dilemmas.Of course, I am aware that God frequently speaks in the voices of us human beings, and so… readers, your thoughts are most welcome…Here we go!“Catch 22” is the title of the assessment, and it doesn’t take Einstein to figure out that it has 22 questions.
(Pls note: All questions are compulsory, and there is no word limit as long as your answer remains relevant, understandable and un-hypothetical.)(Also pls note: I ain’t an atheist or cynic. But I ain’t got blind faith either. Do bear this in mind before giving me religious gyaan …

You, Me and Stress (Part 3)

This article takes the last one a step further. Three excerpts that stem out of and connect with our last two thoughts about men not being Hollywood heroes and routine dulling the sheen of a relationship. Missed it? Click here to read

Today’s gems:
Excerpt 1 - A woman should not expect her partner to fulfil all her needs. She needs to build a support system of friends and family that she can talk to and hang out with. Her partner cannot be there all the time for her, and she cannot depend on him all the time for her emotional needs.
Excerpt 2 - Lucky is the woman who is able to appreciate what a man can offer, she continues to get more and more. Lucky is the man who is able to meet his own needs and then respond to a woman’s need for help around the house, good communication and regular romance coz he comes home to a happy woman.
Excerpt 3 - Men are attracted to women who can appreciate and trust them, and forgive them for forgetting. Each time she complains, demands, gets upset or does…

The Dolce of my Vita

Very rarely do you come across individuals that you love everything about.And it is rarer still, when they like you back and you go on to nurture a relationship that goes beyond the regular tag of friendship.It stems out of a great deal of empathy and understanding, and yet stops shy of what is called love.Or maybe it’s more supreme than romantic love, and hence, stronger, lasts longer.This guy that I know is one of the most splendid men I’ve met in my life.He’s younger to me, slightly shorter, different caste, and has a girlfriend that he’s crazy about. Let me get that aspect of the tale out of the way before you start cultivating any assumptions and stories. (Bah… Corrupt, one-track minds! Leme repeat the cliché “kya ek ladka ladki sirf dost nahi ho sakte?”)However, I’m definitely not saying that I’d be averse to dating someone like him. He’s dreamy, not because he’s sexy or rich. But because he goes out of his way to make people feel special, and never hurts anyone intentionally.In…

Distress ... or Not

Hello...


Quite a few of you have asked for an update on my eye surgery... about whether its finally happening or I've abandoned the idea for good...


Let me tell you what happened after that fateful, distressful Saturday.

I sulked all day, cut myself off from community and decided to get a good weep. Obviously people came forth with sympathy, support and goodwill. Didn't work. Had already warned them that it was futile. They came anyway. YOU came anyway. Thanks, appreciate the thought and effort. But was still low. Still morose. Still upset with God.


Sunday was quite a nice day, in the sense that I gave no thought to what was past, and had heaps of fun with an unexpected visitor that I don't know if I truly love or dearly detest. Maybe I do both.

We watched Delhi Belly and had dinner at a Chinese joint called Shee (yes, its "Shee", no typo there) in Kubera Park, Wanowrie. The movie was grossly delightful, hilarious and paisa vasool. The dinner was terrible, and further…

Deadly Distress

When disappointment strikes, nothing, and I mean NOTHING – no person, no words, no material can fix it and makes things better.It’s inadequate and silly to repeat the cliché’s that it’ll all be fine and nothing lasts forever, and happened for a reason, and better things in store.Doesn’t work. Doesn’t give any solace or joy.Can’t take away the sorrow, frustration and desperation.It really makes no sense to be told to not give up hope, to keep trying and be strong, and to realise that other people have greater and more serious problems…All the logic and optimism is fine, but it does NOT help in any way when a person is feeling truly in the dumps.While it is appreciable on the part of people to participate in the grief, sometimes distance from all things living (or at least all things talking!) is the only way to be.Like, for example, when somebody close expires. And you want to be alone. And you want to cry. Or maybe NOT cry because you’re in some other dimension, reliving memories and …

You, Me and Stress (Part 2)

For those needing introduction on this series revolving around Why Mars and Venus Collide by John Gray, pls click here:The others, let’s dive straight into the discussion…Excerpt - People are more tolerant and positive at the beginning of a relationship. After sometime, routine sets in and men focus on work and other activities to stimulate themselves. Women feel their expectations will not be met, so they lose optimism, hope and trust in the relation. She tries to bring the magic back, but when her efforts are not reciprocated, she loses her glow and motivation. His detachment and her increased attention to their loss of connection builds tension in the relation and they drift further apart.
I bet many of us have been through this phase, the time when a partner (usually the woman) says “nothing’s like it used to be, things were so much merrier and better, and now, the magic is gone…”


It’s nothing but the dullness of routine. Once the partners have been wooed and introduced to each othe…